Eating disorders don't always look like what we were taught to expect. Fewer than 6% of people with an eating disorder are medically underweight, and people in larger bodies are actually at higher risk, not lower. That alone should make us rethink a lot of our intake assessments. If we're only screening the clients who "look sick," we are missing almost everyone.

Finished the goal. Hit the number. Landed the job. Still felt behind five minutes later. A piece on why the next thing never actually delivers the relief we’re chasing, and what might.

Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is stop fighting the fact that we are human.

Where did we get the idea that we’d suddenly become 5 a.m. people with color-coded planners, perfectly optimized workflows, and meal-prepped refrigerators...

...when some of us don’t even own a planner?

For a long time, many of us have learned to treat worth like a transaction. We collect evidence that we deserve to feel good about ourselves: the accomplishment, the compliment, the milestone, the number on the scale, the paycheck, the approval. We keep waiting for the moment when we finally have enough proof that we are enough.